BAND BAZZA BARAT and PhD

The springs of India and time for first 3 letters of this blog. The ultimate deed for anybody in this part of the world. Marriage the so called institution in our country where parents, family searches the ultimate partner for their children. I personally feel that’s the right way to so. Unlike western hemisphere here marriages means involvement more than a couple and perhaps that distinguishes us from the rest of animal kingdom. So being able to find a partner so that you can leave your genes in this world forever , one has to impress more than one person. Difficult. But I am not writing about all these my focus is on the fourth word of the title, How he’ or she is going to cope with this Battle of Sexes.

Let’s start with the guys. PhDs are someone in this country who are greeted by the question that “I think u have denied of employment after you graduation” by most of the people. The reason for the person for doing a PhD is considered as he is not employable as a bank clerk or at an IT company. That’s makes him a looser/ In early 30s or late 20s these people are best known as serious kind of person who hardly laughs makes his candidature weak. Looking at my fellow friends they never expect to get the best mother for their children. Girls denied because they feel this man never make her click a pic with a foreign location at the back drop. She expects that she is never going stay in major metros hence has to wear formal Indian wear and at a constant threat of invasion by her in laws. So she opts for a husband who works 15 hrs a day, lives on the verge of credit card deadlines, recession, emis and sometimes impotency .

Girls !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! till now they are the chooser (thanks to the ultra sound imaging) but for them victory in this war is not easy, If a girl is doing PhD means she is not beautiful ,this is the general perception, She is not expected to wear fashionable clothes and accessories which evident during recent fest at my institution. When a fellow PhD girl impress everybody by her sense of fashion the moral police starts blowing whistle. She is considered as over educated which is certainly not a boosting point in CV of bride to be. She is perhaps not in her sweet days and never considered as first choice for her son by a mother. It sometimes also doing PhD means that she is not marriageable at her earlier age or an indication of that is that her dad never had the money to make her daughter married.

So these are the problem our budding researchers face. And facing this situation they commit to themselves that they never let anyone whom they know into this field and hence if the outcome of their projects is this then we have to be humiliated in from of small countries like Israel and many more in research outcome.

Regards

Jhalak